Sunday, October 3, 2010

THE QUINTESSENTIAL BANBURY CROSSROADS: EDUCATION OUTSIDE THE BOX

By Diane Swiatek, Principal of Banbury Crossroads School
http://www.banburycrossroads.com/

For over thirty years, Banbury Crossroads has been a school that exists outside the box of conventional schooling. We understand that children are people. They are multi-faceted persons who need and seek development in a balanced manner. Banbury Crossroads offers children a unique and innovative opportunity to pursue their education in a relaxed family atmosphere that celebrates their individuality, preserves their autonomy and enhances their intellectual and social growth. In order to offer our students the ultimate in concentration and the ultimate in relaxation—both attributes necessary for optimal learning—we have challenged the prevailing assumptions about traditional schooling. Since most schools today are the direct descendant of institutions designed to deliver mass education to the lower classes in Britain 150 years ago, educators have maintained many historical ways of achieving social and academic priorities. Large classes and large schools, using a teacher-paced, lecture-based method of instruction, suitable for preparing youth for factory work, have persisted due to their economic efficiency. However, over the past half-century, the study of developmental psychology and learning theory, and the change in cultural expectations for educational outcomes, has rendered it wise to transform the traditional methods of helping children to learn. Throughout the years that children are in schools, they change from infants to adults. Schooling needs to honor the students’ humanity and dignity. In this 21st Century, there are many means through which adults can work with children in providing relevant opportunities to learn about life. The mandate that Banbury Crossroads has chosen is to creatively form partnerships with parents in the process of helping young people explore the world outside them—culture, history, artistic and musical expression, scientific and mathematical theories, career needs, recreation and social interactions—and the world inside them—their talents, interests, motivations and driving principles by which they live. This is a process of learning how to learn, and how to think. In Banbury Crossroads, a new vision of what schooling can be has been clarified, and our existence provides a beacon of light to inspire future educators.

Certainly, the need for change is great. The teacher-directed, lecture-delivery approach, with its focus upon uniformity and conformity, is not suited for gifted and talented children, who have agendas of their own and desires for both intense interaction and independence. It does not provide suitable opportunities for self-motivated students to display initiative in seeking answers to their own questions, or to engage in autonomous decision-making. Sitting still and being quiet are not in children’s best interest, because that is not how they learn. Recent educational research has confirmed that lectures do not provide the interaction with subject matter, the discussion and hands-on experience, that students need in order to learn concepts most effectively—even at a university level, where lectures are firmly entrenched. This teacher-led approach is also inconvenient for students heavily involved in sports, dance and music, as its inflexible timetable cannot accommodate day-time activities such as travel, exams or competitions. In addition, public concerns have arisen on issues of safety and academic achievement. We have become painfully aware of problems without solutions, such as persistent bullying that results from complicated emotional causes, unrelenting shyness that is exacerbated in students who feel invisible in a crowd, as well as academic needs and styles of learning that are not honored. In large institutional settings, young people often react to problems by being vindictive, or else they use avoidance or confrontational tactics to merely cope with crises. Often, parents and teachers identify students who fall between the cracks, and in the meantime, the provincial goals are to increase our graduation rate from 75% to 90%. In order for this to happen, some drastic changes need to occur in the school experiences of our young people, changes such as the progressive ones we have incorporated at Banbury Crossroads.

Fundamentally, Banbury offers congruence between children’s life experience at home and at school. In the past, surprisingly, parents have often accepted radically opposite environments for their children in each place. At home, parents want their children to develop trust, to learn effective communication skills, and to solve social and practical problems with their siblings. Parents find creative ways to develop their children’s talents and interests in music, sports and fine arts. They provide stimulating experiences to help their children discover the joys of learning. Parents ensure their children’s safety. They treat their offspring with sincerity, affection and nurturing, with awareness and acceptance as individuals of worth. Most parents have small numbers of children, to provide sufficient attention for each child. They carefully cultivate a home environment that is loving, helpful and tender for their children, so that their sons and daughters will develop self-esteem, social empathy, initiative, self-responsibility, confidence and skill development to mastery. Parents accept their goals as natural and good.

It has been difficult and troubling for such caring, aware parents to realize that on the other hand, they were sending their children off to schools for the majority of their weekdays, where students were routinely bullied or ignored. These were two entirely different worlds! In large traditional schools, there are so many pupils in the class that children don’t get their questions asked, let alone answered. Many young people are bored and disconnected. Even when teachers try to meet the needs of their students, they just don’t have time in a large class. Young people routinely feel coerced through the rewards and punishment that are prevalent in large, crowded schools, and they have to bear the brunt of the alienation.

Why have parents made these choices for drastically divergent environments? Perhaps they felt a habitual reassurance with traditional methods, since it mirrored their own early school experience. Due to the pervasive presence of conventional schools across the western world, people often adopted the comforting presumption that they work, and that nothing else does. Educational authorities confirmed this presumption. Thinking that there were no other options, parents often became resigned to their powerlessness to change the situation.

Sometimes people rationalized to deal with the difficult choices they made. Some people argued that children need to learn how to cope with, and get used to, an uncaring outside world, and that this rude shock and disappointment are what make them strong. This point of view is pessimistic and limiting. The point of education is not merely to promote student survival, but rather to promote students thriving within the larger world, and contributing unselfishly to its betterment. Certainly, parents have reasonable goals for their children to be able to establish their personalities in a crowd, and to cooperate in social groups. It is even wise to develop the shrewdness that is necessary for “street smarts”. However, it is a misconception to think that it is the “cold, hard world” that, through knocking kids about, gives them this thick skin and independence. It is actually more likely to lead to depression and failure. Children may sometimes triumph over their unsupportive surroundings by wanting something better, but it is in spite of the harsh environment, not because of it, that success comes. Besides, the number of casualties in harsh conditions far outnumbers the successes.

A far better route to promote the development of children’s strength of mind and body is to give them the opportunity to grow in fertile ground, with the support and guidance of trusted adults. Skill and knowledge growth, and the self-esteem that derives from this concrete evidence of capability, is most likely to occur in an atmosphere of encouragement and personal attention. Children need to learn how to handle difficult social situations by developing empathic communication tactics to diffuse negative emotion, and by truly believing that problems are meant to be solved. Therefore, Banbury has become a gentle sanctuary for youthful inquiry, which reflects the constructive and nurturing environment that children inhabit in their homes, because these are parallel environments occurring during childhood.

What does our school feel like? How are we different? It is a small and intimate, multi-aged setting based on family values. The school admits 75 students per year from Junior Kindergarten through Grade 12, with 10 to 12 students per class. Relationships transcend age, with students sharing their experience and knowledge as both teachers and learners. Multi-aging within classes enhances empathy, kindness and leadership development. We are on a first-name basis with everyone. In such a vertical age grouping, competition between children is minimized, and development is pursued individually. Collaboration and unselfconscious intellectual engagement flourish in such an environment. This is the way of the world: adults must live and work amongst others of a variety of ages. The world is multi-aged, and a school should reflect that reality.

Children are visible in a variety of aspects. Students’ pursuit of intellectual growth is balanced by opportunities to grow emotionally, physically, creatively, socially and philosophically. Of five main points of focus, the first is to promote exploration to fulfill our students’ innate curiosity. Curiosity, the main stimulus to master the environment, leads children to exert energy to explore and learn about the world around them in an integrated way. Banbury’s structure, called open classroom, integrated day, or progressive education, capitalizes upon this innate curiosity and intrinsic motivation. This method is used in Alberta kindergarten programs, but Banbury is the only school that has devised ways of using it all the way through Grade 12. We encourage exploration of the inside and outside environment, providing many varieties of activities for stimulation and captivation. This is a process of allowing the natural child to shine unabated. Our students maintain their innate inquisitiveness and willingness to engage in active exploration of their surroundings. They accept the need to become capable, as well as lovable, as they grow older. They keep their curiosity about the natural world, history, travel, and culture, and we encourage them to explore these topics within their curricular pursuits. As they practice new skills and ideas, they value the learning and success that come from each step in their growth to expertise. As a result, Banbury students continue to enjoy school. Their teachers also enjoy the journey of discovery, as they demonstrate the natural authority that their knowledge engenders, and the enthusiasm that they feel during discussions and events. The earth is full of wonders, and we hope to inspire each one of us to appreciate the gift of being alive!

The second focus point is to individualize learning. Teachers create the learning environment by preparing stimulating materials and grouping similar ones together in spaces where children can use them independently. Within our small learning circles, there is no struggle for all unique students to feel noticed, accepted and assisted in their life learning. A vibrant academic atmosphere results from frequent student-teacher meetings and small-group discussions. Feeling connected and trusting within the group, they can turn their minds more readily to discovering those interesting details about the world that academic learning addresses. Each teacher has time with students—time to discuss, listen, monitor, and inspire. Children can learn according to their own style and at their own pace, while receiving instruction and feedback appropriate for their needs, and relevant to their lives. Learning continues until mastery is achieved.

Not only are young people learning curricular concepts, but they are also communicating and connecting with adults, and learning the wisdom of the previous generation concerning the myriad details that form a culture. The avalanche of information contained in books, magazines, computer sites, television, videos, radio and newspapers, requires adults to help children organize the data and evaluate it for validity, usefulness and relevance. This responsive intellectual contact is highly valued by teens in particular, who will soon be entering the ranks of adulthood, and who need to develop trusting working relationships with adults.

Banbury Crossroads has operated with the belief that schooling is primarily about learning, not teaching. Teaching is the self-conscious planning and delivery of material and experiences to those designated as learners. Learning, on the other hand, is the active process occurring within learners, of constructing meaning by continually evaluating new ideas and incorporating them into the currently held world view. There are always new levels of knowledge to be discovered. Students need to learn and to unlearn. Learning can happen with or without outside teaching. Teaching can occur with or without learning resulting.

The third goal is to live by principles that define healthy family life, within a community that respects personal expression and social connection. The only social responsibility required is that which is demonstrably right and essential for the good of all. Thus, the basic principles of liberty and mutual respect are the foundations for the belief that individuals should be allowed to make decisions to direct the course of their own lives, as long as they do not interfere with the rights of others. These concepts are the heart and cornerstone of our democratic culture. In order for people to behave autonomously and to manifest a social conscience and altruistic spirit, it is paramount that they develop a solid core of self-esteem while they are young. We believe that the best way to give children psychological safety, as a basis of emotional health, confidence and wellbeing, is to offer gentle respect for their dignity and worth. Everything works together coherently.

Our school operates like an extended family, wherein the adults are expected to care not only about what the children learn, but also about the children themselves. Trust, self-esteem and mutual respect underlie all healthy relationships. We need to be nurturing of the vulnerability that trust requires, so that children will develop courage, constructive communication and negotiation skills, and aim for win-win problem solving. We create a positive, considerate social atmosphere by assisting the children in their social relationships without using manipulative and controlling behaviorist approaches…we avoid those simplistic punishments and rewards. Instead, we encourage supportive connections with mentoring teachers and peers, through which we attempt to convince children, since the process of doing so encourages the development of moral and logical reasoning. They soon learn to acknowledge their responsibility for the consequences of their behaviours upon themselves and others, and discover the satisfaction of making amends when necessary. Intrinsic reasons are what we seek as the basis for decision making. Teens face dangerous temptations like drugs, alcohol, anti-social vindictiveness, and early sexual contact. They need clear values in order to analyze and judge the issues involved in each situation, they need to be able to see the big picture, and they need to be able to justify solid, healthy reasons for their choices. In our intimate setting, social problems are seen as golden opportunities to learn listening skills, flexibility and creative problem solving, which lead to positive relationships and networking skills.

This process of developing cooperative interpersonal living skills is an intense challenge for our students, because it is hard. It is hard, but it is good for them. Being assertive in resolving issues feels more courageous inside, which in turn boosts students’ self-esteem and reinforces their expectations for good treatment from others. It promotes empathy, patience and social responsiveness. Our students grow very capable of identifying problems, assessing possible causes and expecting workable solutions. This approach requires hours of conversation and interaction. Students learn through experience what respect feels like, and have a clear idea of the intertwined nature of rights and responsibilities. They devotedly guard their right to feel comfortable in the school setting, and anywhere else.

We also promote an appreciation for diversity. With a strong ESL program, some of our students have come from as far away as Holland, Korea, Germany, Columbia and Hong Kong, whereas others come from local neighborhoods. We bring together people of different races, classes, genders and cultural identities into one peer group, since the students cannot escape each other. Even if students discover special friends amongst the crowd, they must still deal respectfully with the entire group. This increases their ability to work effectively with others from different backgrounds, which is a useful skill for adulthood.

The fourth goal that follows from the third is to foster within our students the attitudes and skills underlying self-responsibility and autonomy. We allow children to move about the classrooms, make decisions regarding their academic activities, learn organizational and goal-setting skills, design and carry out self-initiated projects, determine the pace of their progress through the curriculum, and access teachers as caring mentors. In the matter of academics, our students encounter more challenges than in the traditional classroom. We do not push passive students through their courses. We discuss and encourage, but students must learn to motivate and organize themselves! This can be hard for students who come from typical, teacher-paced programs elsewhere; however, they can overcome their passivity, under our encouragement of initiative and self-responsibility. Eventually, they discover the enlightening idea that it is good to become autonomous, because it gives them a sense of control over their lives, and an unabashed attitude of optimism.

In the social realm, continual conversations both illustrate the process of cause and effect, and also emphasize the influence that adults wield—not the power and control. Our youth can become enlightened that they do have power over themselves, and that their role is not to simply obey or rebel, but to decide logically for themselves. In this way, they develop autonomy, which is necessary for emotional health. As young people mature independently, they gain confidence and life-skills, which in turn lead them to complete high school. When they then head for post secondary institutions, the transition is smooth because they have learned to conduct their own learning independently. They are prepared with the time management skills, effective study and questioning techniques, goal setting, academic groundwork, resiliency and self-responsibility to handle the liberty and initiative that comprise these institutions. Our determination to foster decision-making and individual expression (no uniforms for us!) breeds this independence in students, and their acceptance of responsibility for their own educational and social progress. This is our special mark of distinction.

The fifth goal is to allow children to have direct contact with their environment, both within and outside the school. Inquiry-based learning requires the use of hands-on materials, project work, visits by resource people, contributive internships, volunteerism, community sports and arts centres, mentoring relationships, and multitudinous field trips. Active participation with concrete objects, people and places of interest is crucial for eliciting excitement and meaning in learning. It also honors the auditory, visual and kinesthetic styles of learning that students prefer or need to use. Moreover, it creates connections within their school and outside communities in which they can both value the opportunities that exist, and also contribute to the social milieu through altruistic gifts of time and interest. Such activity lifts their daily lives out of the classroom, and into the world that is their focus, after all!

Logical and analytical thinking, moral reasoning, problem solving and creativity are tools for living. Education itself is a tool, for we use it to accomplish certain societal and personal goals. In this way, what we want is not actually the tool itself, but the results of what the tool can give us. We want schooling that encourages confidence and autonomy in young people. Confidence allows our youth to pursue their life dreams, and to encounter new experiences with strength of purpose, persistence and hope. Self-assurance, autonomy and self-accountability allow them to relate to others with goodwill, empathy, tolerance and cooperation.

At Banbury Crossroads, staff, parents and students have worked together to create a learning environment that is genuinely outside the box, and that fulfills children’s needs in a manner harmonious with, and complementary to, their experience at home. Banbury is non-traditional, and truly different! Over 27 years, through its innovative perspective on schooling, Banbury Crossroads has offered young people the initiative, skills and knowledge they can use to change the world, for people who can collaborate to constructively change their communities have limitless power. The highest measure of education is that it promotes humanitarian and compassionate responses from its students. Then, as they experience the concept of liberty, with its dual meaning of respecting the rights and responsibilities of all persons, they can understand what a democracy means from the inside out. It is mind-boggling to imagine the potential changes in a future society if all children could experience such congruently healthy environments throughout their childhood, and grow up demanding and creating a society of constructive social, political and intellectual interactions based on mutual respect and justice. We hope to light the way to such a world.

Sunday, June 6, 2010

Children Should Not Have To Live In Fear

Have you heard of the boiled frog syndrome? If you put a frog into a pot of boiling water, the frog will jump right out. It recognizes such a drastic danger. However, if you put a frog into a pot of cold water, and raise the temperature degree by degree until it reaches the boiling point, the frog will not recognize the minute changes, and it will remain in the pot until it boils to death.

The moral of the story is that we need to be careful not to acclimatize ourselves to gradually increasing stress or danger, because by the time we recognize the critical nature of the problem, we may be past the point of being able to rectify it easily…or at all.

I see a problem that is occurring in many large secondary schools that reminds me of this analogy. That problem is gangs. Task forces are in place already among certain elements of our society, such as the police service, to study and attempt to address this problem, because lately the activities of gangs have led to the murder of youth by youth. Many factors contribute to the presence of these aggressive attitudes within young people in schools and society at large, and they have been present for some time. For many of us, though, this is a problem that seems to be rising with the bubbles in the boiling water. It’s here, and we didn’t notice it coming. We cannot afford to ignore it any more; it’s scalding us already.

Last week, I was touched by this issue. One of the students in our school was threatened with being beaten up by members of a neighboring school. What was unusual here, and what alerted me to the seriousness of the problem, was that the threatened person had not had any contact with the aggressors at all prior to the confrontation. Unwarranted assumptions were made, and the actions proceeded as though they were choreographed. The following day, rumours floated in that 30 students, some from other adjacent schools, had converged and were coming by bus, prepared to engage in battle. As it happened, nothing materialized…just the threats lingered, but they were shocking enough that they were able to poison the emotional well-being of the person threatened. Now, this was not an attempt to gloriously redress injustice or evil. This was not even the action of stereotypically organized gangs. No, this was the action of a pseudo-gang, one that groups and regroups whenever the opportunity arises, with different people, boys and girls of the mid-teen years, coming together randomly for the purpose of fighting chosen victims. It seems that lock-downs and police visits to large schools have already become rather commonplace. This is bizarre! We cannot afford to acclimatize ourselves to it! These are children, remember, and school is their home away from home. Children should not have to live in fear.

If adults in the workplace throughout the city were subjected to these unpredictable and powerless situations, there would be a hue and cry in protest, absolutely. Adults expect a peaceful atmosphere where they spend their working days. This is a democracy, and our laws all outline expectations that every citizen has the right to pursue their goals, as long as they do not interfere with the rights of others to do the same. Physical and emotional safety are seen as our rights, and preserving this safety for others, our responsibility. I do not see how we should accept the presence of gangs in our schools, because the physical and emotional safety of our children is definitely at risk within such an environment.

But how do we go about not accepting the presence of gangs? Police and school crackdowns, expulsions and other punishments actually seem like band-aids to this immense problem, and they can only be applied after some event has occurred…after the devastation has boiled over. Preventing gangs is preferable. This is a solution requiring the efforts of many participants. Parents and teachers and school administrators and parenting educators and social workers all need to work together. These adults need to apply individual attention to youth at risk—all youth—to help them feel visible and capable and powerful over their own lives. Then, they will not need to establish power over others. Adults need to develop bonds of trust with the youth in their daily circles, so that discussion is possible on a regular basis on the topic of their small frustrations, fears and hurts. Vindictiveness, which is the root of gang action, may seem to the students to be a sign of strength against the outside world that preserves their safety and soothes their fears. However, the vindictive actions only lead to the continuation of the very fear they may think they are avoiding. Youth need adults to talk to, to sift fact from fantasy, to discover alternate means of soothing their pride and their delicate sense of self. They need encouragement and inspiration, not criticism. Large schools have trouble doing this, simply from sheer numbers. Small schools have a better chance. Still, we all need to be attuned to this dysfunctional behaviour looming in our schools, because already, we can see the effects spilling over that pot into our public places. We need, right now, to notice all children of whatever age, who are displaying dissatisfaction, anger, resistance, retaliation, and fear. We need to listen to them so that their distress can evaporate bit by bit. We need to actively listen and accept their feelings and help them find constructive ways to solve their dilemmas. We need to be role models who are not aggressive bullies ourselves. We need to not retaliate when others frustrate us, but rather seek to bring caring and balance to relationships, and solutions to problems. It is simple, if each family, each teacher, each coach, each adult who exists within the living circles of young people, simply does this.

By Diane Swiatek, Principal and Founder of Banbury Crossroads School
http://www.banburycrossroads.com/

Friday, April 23, 2010

Thirty Years of Progressive Education—Here, Right under our Noses

Calgary’s most unfortunately best-kept secret is that a progressive school has been living in its own small niche in this city for 30 years, largely unknown. This school began in November of 1979 by a single teacher with a dream, and two lone students. Banbury Crossroads it was called. A. S. Neill, who wrote Summerhill, provided her with the initial seed of inspiration to re-think “school”. Neill believed that children have a right to be happy, and that they should be able to direct the course of their own lives, as long as they don’t interfere with the rights of others. This concept is at the root of mutual respect and democracy itself. That is why this type of education is sometimes called “democratic education”. Summerhill still exists in England, and is now associated with similar schools across Europe. Banbury wasn’t only inspired by Summerhill, however. John Holt was another major influence. He wrote many books in the spirit of objectively examining the process of learning for children both within schools and outside them. He is perhaps best known for starting the homeschooling movement with his newsletter, Growing without Schooling. When Banbury Crossroads began, its founder started from scratch, in terms of creating an environment that would work best for children and adults to come together in the pursuit of learning. In the end, the structure used in the Modern British Infant System, called open classroom or integrated day, was chosen for Banbury. This choice of model was due to its emphasis upon individuality, student pacing, relationships, movement, self-responsibility, learning based upon inquiry and projects, and ultimately, student autonomy. For thirty years now, this progressive school has been developing and providing very special learning experiences for the children in Calgary. It’s time that everyone knew this.

As part of the educational scene in Alberta, Banbury now plays a unique role. Its atmosphere is engaged and peaceful; its students free to be themselves and to prosper in multi-aged classes of no more than 12 students. The small class sizes allow teachers to really know their students, and to provide socially adept role-modelling and intensive individual and small-group instruction. The environment is designed to be familial—like an extended family or village that is devoted to learning. The values that parents live by in their homes are also honoured there. In addition to providing for physical needs, parents give their children visibility, affection, stimulation, safety, encouragement for talents, reasoning skills and communication strategies. Banbury values the same approach to its students.

Individuality is one driving theme that underlies all aspects of the school. Students progress through the curriculum at their own pace, and with respect given for their personal interests. Teaching is not lecture-based; rather, it is tutorial-based. This is a more effective way to engage learners—when discussions are relevant and personal. Time management and organizational skills develop as students take responsibility for their own education. Since children are treated as people with hopes, dreams, fears and feelings, and since teachers have time to help their students with emotional and social challenges, healthy relationships are more possible between children and adults. Under these conditions, trust grows.

Opportunity and exploration are other underlying themes of life at Banbury. Students are given many and various opportunities to really explore their world, as they use their innate curiosity and energy to master their environment. Since one purpose of education is to draw people out from themselves and into the world around them, it makes sense that we not close our youngest citizens up within four window-scarce walls, with only pictures and words to describe that real world outside. The community needs to be part of the learning equation.

At Banbury, the community is touched not just through field trips and cultural excursions, but also through frequent volunteerism and contributive internships. Every Junior and Senior High student participates one day per week off-site at various businesses and services. They design projects to connect the learning they pursue in the classroom with the needs of living in the real world. They develop a sense of altruism and purpose, and the buoyancy that comes from working side-by-side with adults who care about their work. This allows young people not only to explore career opportunities, but to extend their intrinsic motivations and interests in a concrete way. Learning is not just about reading and writing, although it certainly does contain those necessary communication tools. Learning is also about seeing the world as a scientist, a mathematician, a sociologist, a psychologist, a political scientist, and so on. To actually do this work is much more impactful than just reading about other people doing it.

Young people need to learn concentration and persistence and the power of passion. At Banbury, such goals are held in high esteem, because over the years, it has been very obvious that students who are raised in such a fashion become effectual people. Their social responsiveness is greater, because they have been able to truly care about the small number of people they spend each day with, and because they have learned to communicate and negotiate. Having lived with the idea that the best reason should win, they are able to analyze situations so that they can make better decisions. Our graduates are quietly confident about their accomplishments and their ability to learn more. They are the future entrepreneurs and service providers who will spread, like ripples, across our Canadian culture. They will change the way that the world works. People should know about this school. It’s about time.


- Diane Swiatek
www.banburycrossroads.com

Banbury Crossroads School

Here is a video on Banbury Crossroads School that was produced by Shaw Cable TV and aired on the community channel in Calgary.


Friday, April 16, 2010

Relate and Communicate

When my Mother died recently, the whole process of waiting with baited breath at the hospital, reassuring family members, and coping with grief reinforced my belief that relationships may be the most significant element of our lives. When we are toddlers, we need our parents and families to acknowledge our presence with respect, to encircle us with hugs and kisses, to assist us with learning about the world around us, and to protect us from elements we are too young to realize may hurt us. When we are children, we need parents and other caring people to provide healthy role models and meaningful environmental stimulation in order to grow into self-assured, strong, competent and socially-responsive adults. When we are in our middle adult years, we need relationships to create the synergy that is necessary for cooperative ventures. Together we build homes, high-rises and bridges. Together we organize musical and artistic events, humanitarian projects and businesses. We need to collaborate to create healthy marriages and functional families. When we are old, we rely on relationships to help us cope with the disabilities that old age brings, we thrive if we still have social gatherings with friends and family, and we remember our adventures with people in the past. We are social beings. Relationships are crucial to a life well lived. Every thing that we accumulate is not taken to the grave. How we relate to others, how we influence the growth of others, how we make an impact on the world around us—this is what really matters in the end.

Therefore, it makes sense for us to pay attention to the quality of those relationships that we create every day. If we try to live in an aware manner, becoming involved with our moments, and evaluating our experiences, then we have more hope of creating relationships that nurture us and that we may value. A relationship isn’t something static that you can grasp in your hand, like an object. A relationship is really more like a verb—it exists only in its creation and maintenance. Actions build relationships. It takes reciprocal actions of loyalty, kindness, patience, empathy, honesty, and unselfishness to create the atmosphere of mutual trust that is the major underlying component of any good relationship. With trust and integrity, we can make assumptions about the positive intentions of others, so that our interactions may flow easily throughout both pleasant associations and problem solving.

A relationship is like a river of communication. There may be boulders in the way, but water can flow around them. Moreover, just as river water can be pristine or polluted, communication can be clear or polluted. Water is best clear, and communication is also best clear, since the truth will out in the end, anyway. Unambiguous communication allows us to realize what we have to deal with, and to feel comfortable with others. Polluted communication is the cause of much misery in the world. The older I get, the more I realize how polluted communication leads to power mongering, fear, missed opportunities, misunderstanding, discrimination, and insecurity. People need to communicate their feelings, thoughts and needs openly to their family members, at the very least. When people spend every day with co-workers, they need to be able to communicate shared goals and methods, and personal requirements. For every interaction, both parties need to respect themselves and others, and to reflect this respect in their words and actions. Communication is not just verbal. So, a healthy relationship is made of a flow of never-ending constructive interactions. Adults need to nurture those who are weaker than themselves, including children, making sure that their needs are taken care of, too. They may need to read between the lines and check out their guesswork. They need to care.

Communication is usually learned by example. Formal instruction in the home is usually limited to reminders to say polite words, to avoid swear words, to watch the tone of voice if it becomes belligerent or sarcastic, to remember words of apology and forgiveness, and other small details. However, the topic of communication is immense. Whole courses at university are devoted to this topic, both in psychology and sociology. Most people could do with some objective evaluation of their own communication techniques and patterns. We have all seen children in public getting scolded or punished in impatient, uncomfortable and disrespectful ways. Communication is not just about how we say something. It is also about what we have to say, and how we interpret the situations in our lives.

We have a lot to learn, as a society, about this topic. Every day in the news, we see evidence of communication going awry. Politics, criminal law, domestic strife and community issues all display examples of communication that either didn’t happen, or got twisted, or revealed selfishness, or got stopped in its tracks before proceeding to resolution. However, even when truthful communication reveals basic discord between people’s beliefs and values, good communication skills used by participants and mediators can lead to an honest search for solutions. I recently read a quote about how war is the ultimate failure of imagination to solve problems. So, communication is the means whereby people can live together in harmony.

Because Banbury Crossroads School is so devoted to the emotional and social growth of our students, we support the use of good communication by teachers and amongst our students. We have realized long ago that parents also appreciate input on this topic, seeing benefit within their families and marriages through learning new options for dealing with discord. Therefore, several years ago, we began offering P.E.T. (Parent Effectiveness Training) classes at least once a year. This course is based on the work of Dr. Thomas Gordon, who was nominated several times for a Nobel Peace Prize. Judy Arnall, herself the author of Parenting Without Distress, taught most of them over the years, although she has also recommended a few other presenters, such as Donna Joy.

The next time we are offering this course will be next autumn. These sessions are always extremely well-attended, with the class size being limited to 10 to 15 participants. We invite any parent who wishes to extend their understanding of how to listen, how to complain, how to problem solve, and how to deal with values issues, to join us next fall for this valuable opportunity. Please call the school for information at 270-7787. If we all learn and deal better with the people around us, we will inevitably change the way relationships work in the future. The investment of time is worth it!

By Diane Swiatek, Principal, Banbury Crossroads School

http://banburycrossroads.com/homepage.html






Monday, April 12, 2010

How to Turn a Student On: The Passion Puzzle Piece

Educating a child is like putting together a puzzle. There are a lot of pieces that need to fit together to create the whole, coherent picture that we are aiming for. When beginning any puzzle, we may have a difficult time knowing where to start. There are so many possibilities. The edges, the limits, are not clear. We try starting with a simple corner, to give ourselves a direction. Sometimes, a piece doesn’t look like it fits—until it is looked at from another angle. And finally, all the pieces need some linking to the other pieces, so they can hold together. Education is a complex process.

It is very helpful for parents and teachers to think deeply about this process, in order to do it justice. One of the crucial pieces in the puzzle is the intelligence of each individual child. Malcolm Gladwell, in Outliers: The Story of Success, describes how intelligence is, to some degree, innate, yet social savvy, the element that allows intelligence to blossom, is knowledge, a set of skills and attitudes that are learned within our families. He quotes a study by sociologist Annette Lareau, who followed twelve families of different social strata and focused on their parenting styles. She discovered that there were only two parenting philosophies, divided along class lines. Wealthier parents were heavily involved in their children’s free time, offering classes and activities to develop their children’s talents and interests. They talked to their children about relationships and advised them to speak up for themselves. These middle-class parents discussed issues with their children, reasoning with them. They didn’t just issue commands. They expected their children to negotiate and question adults in positions of authority. They intervened on behalf of their children. Lareau called this middle-class parenting style “concerted cultivation”, describing it as an attempt to actively assess and foster a child’s talents, opinions and skills. Poor parents, by contrast, tended to follow a strategy of “accomplishment of natural growth”. They saw their responsibility to care for their children, but to let them grow and develop on their own. These styles were not judged as morally better or worse. In fact, the poorer children were sometimes perceived as better behaved, less whiny and more creative in making use of their own time, and they had a well-developed sense of independence. However, concerted cultivation had enormous advantages in a practical sense. The middle-class children exposed to more cultural opportunities could cope with shifting sets of experience, interact comfortably with adults and speak up when needed. They learned to customize whatever environment they were in, to suit their best purposes. They were more alert, poised and even attractive. The working-class and poor children, however, were characterized by “an emerging sense of distance, distrust, and constraint.” They could be quiet and submissive, having low expectations of success. The key learning from this study is that the skills to interact with authority figures in the larger community are learned, not inherited. Children need help from adults that provides, in effect, a cultural advantage. Even geniuses, Gladwell explains, need such assistance to develop their potential. They need their homes filled with books, and adults in their lives who are committed to the pursuit of knowledge themselves. They need “a community around them that prepare[s] them properly for the world”. Parents design their piece of the education puzzle, and this design affects the finished puzzle.

Schools are also significant pieces of the puzzle, since they are communities that provide resources and challenges to children. They can enhance or stifle the efforts of parents. Schools’ philosophies and practices are not written in stone, and there is wide variety even within Calgary for parents to pick from. Recently, a contingent from our school, Banbury Crossroads, headed to Providence, Rhode Island, to visit the Met, a Big Picture School. Our goal was to speak the same language with like-minded educators, a new experience for us, as our school is unique in Alberta. We discovered many attitudes in common, and realized that an affiliation would be reasonable. Both Big Picture Schools (which have received funding from the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation) and Banbury Crossroads have examined the education puzzle and have filled in blank spaces with aspects that have been commonly missing. One of these elements is the idea of dealing with students individually, within small tutorial classes. Another is helping students to accept responsibility for their own learning. Still another is assisting students to create connections within their outside community through volunteerism, project-inspired learning and internships.

Teachers in schools can borrow the best from both parenting approaches described by Lareau. They can be active participants in students’ cultural lives, showing intellectual, emotional and practical interest in their endeavours. They can encourage deep exploration of academic topics. They can promote effective communication, negotiation, problem solving, and critical dialogue about ideas and values. In addition, schools can encourage independence and self-organization in the pursuit of student autonomy. This requires a balance between adult interference and laissez-faire. Balance provides the linking between all the other elements. The balance is necessary in order to allow students to discover their own passions, talents and interests.

This is one of the most important pieces of the education puzzle that has been missing for thousands of students across North America: the piece called passion. Students are much better off if they leave high school with a clear idea of their passions, their talents, their interests. If careers and professions are based on personal passion, practitioners will find the experience to be fulfilling. Intrinsic passion provides the stimulus and energy for people to endure the work and tedious aspects inherent in any field of endeavour, so that they can put in their ten thousand hours of practice to achieve mastery. If we really want to turn students on to the process of discovery, to the joy of studying the world around them, then we need to help them discover their passions, and then employ them in a useful fashion. Confidence and a sense of purpose and usefulness are fine attributes to carry out into the world beyond school.

The truth is that the education puzzle is really the puzzle of life. We are all building our own puzzles continually, year after year, because we cannot avoid learning. Each puzzle is beautiful if it is built with passion, commitment and social responsiveness, and if it is painted in our own unique colors.


By Diane Swiatek, Principal and Founder of Banbury Crossroads School

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Friday, March 26, 2010

Creating Readers















Literacy is considered a hallmark and a foundation of advanced culture. In Guns, Germs and Steel, Jared Diamond explains that in early civilizations literacy was a skill belonging only to a few in the power elite of a nation, and it was used mainly for recording commerce and historical eve
nts. For centuries, few people were instructed in creating and deciphering these written communications, but by the Renaissance, and particularly after the invention of the printing press, knowledge was eagerly being transferred between individuals and nations by the written word. Being literate was necessary for scientists to create the Industrial Revolution, and many other applications of literacy skills quickly became apparent. Astute factory owners soon dis
covered that it was in their best interest to have at least semi-literate workers manning their factories. During the 1800s, many reforms were initiated to ameliorate the lives of the poor, women and children, and to re-design governmental organization. For example, in order for the Parliaments in Britain and other democratic nations to create a House of Commons, the common man had to be literate simply to handle and analyze the information involved in such important portfolios. Being able to read and write was recognized as an empowering and democratizing force. Mass education was introduced in the mid-1800s, and literacy has been a major focus of educational programs ever since.

Literacy is now a common and visible concept in Canada. Nevertheless, according to a 2005 Statistics Canada report, Spotlight, Adult Literacy, well over three million Canadian adults aged 16 to 65 had low-level literacy skills, which may have had an impact on their participation in society and in the economy. Only about 58% of adults aged 16 to 65 possessed skills in the top three literacy levels on the prose scale, indicating that they could meet most everyday reading requirements. After all these years, Canadians are still struggling to enable young people to communicate effectively through reading and writing. Canadians need to be asking: is there anything we can do to increase these numbers?

Simply put, yes! While we may always have some children who have great difficulty developing these skills, for the majority of children we certainly do have the knowledge of how these skills are formed, and what environment is most conducive to their acquisition. It is reassuring to realize
that our culture provides an excellent environment to inspire beginning readers. We live in a world of printed and spoken words. Adult mentors do not need to artificially create an atmosphere conducive to a child’s reading; words are simply unavoidable. Our culture inundates us with words printed on doors, recipe books, signs in windows, toy boxes, computer games, bus stop seats, CD cases, birthday cards, books, newspapers and magazines. Words are everywhere! Children
are aware that older people, and sometimes their peers, know how to decode these words, and if they have a healthy self-esteem, they want to know too. Erik Erikson claimed that humans naturally desire to master their environment. This is obvious in the very young, who exert great energy and effort in their games, mimicking events and roles and skills of the adult world. Watch the intense vigor, stealth and self-control in children playing tag or hide-and-go-seek! Motivation to read is just as dynamic, especially because knowing how to read and write opens up endless possibilities in other dimensions of life.

What we adults need to do is to capitalize on this keen curiosity. The trouble is that this process is time-consuming, costly and requires a change in the attitudes of parents and teachers. That is why we st
ill have large numbers of adults who cannot read or write effectively—they did not receive adequate or appropriate instruction. First of all, more children would learn how to read effectively if they received enough personalized attention. School classrooms need to be smaller, really small, for young children learning to become literate. Small schools with class sizes of 10 students per teacher or less are more likely to provide such an intimate setting, where children can learn to read in individual reading lessons or small groups. These small classes in small school
s are certainly more expensive up front, but they are more able to provide the appropriate instruction that children actually need. They are cost effective in the long run, because they avert post-school remediation. At the moment, large schools are still in favor with the general populace, but small schools do exist, and parents who want them need not wait for the prevailing common sense to catch up.

Then there is the role-modeling influence to consider. This is another element that requires patience, time and devotion on the part of parents and teachers, and that, if neglected, creates some of the failures to produce literate adults. This is, therefore, something within adult control and merely requires our commitment and persistence. Children learn from watching others, particularly trusted adults. According to Freakonomics, by Steven D. Levitt and Stephen J. Dubner, the presence of books in a home is a basic condition for children’s literacy. If parents do
not value books, newspapers or other reading materials, their children notice. If parents never read in front of their children, or shop in bookstores, or visit libraries, or read from computers, their children will not think of doing so either. More importantly, parents need to find time to read to their children. This is the most significant act of all. When this activity happens in a cozy, intimate setting, with a loving emotional tone, it creates positive associations for children with the act of reading.

Anytime is a perfect time to read! Designing a reading-friendly atmosphere for a family may be most effective if the reading occurs anywhere but indoors, formally at a table. Many different games can be played in a car, or on a walk. Creating strings of rhyming words is one common game. Another enjoyable one is taking license plate letters and making silly phrases with them, such as turning BAT into beautiful ants talk, or YLS into young leopards slither. Any casual game is worthwhile if it plays with words and makes the process fun.

Children are much attuned to their parents’ words, attitude and tone of voice. It is important that we are positive, non-stressed and encouraging. Even if we are worried that a child is slow learning to read, we must be careful not to convey that fear to the child. From the child’s point of view, parental and teacher worry signifies that something is dreadfully wrong, and this creates fear and performance anxiety that inhibit learning. If a child has significant and long-term difficult
ies with short-term memory, hearing, eyesight, or phonetic analysis, resources exist in the community for tutorial and remedial services. Nevertheless, throughout a child’s learning process, we need to be patient, hopeful and encouraging. Attitude and perception are crucial influences.

It takes time, awareness and effort, but we need to demonstrate these elements if we wish to promote greater literacy amongst our young citizens. We need to capture those teachable moments, when reading is relevant and useful. Parents and teachers can include young children in p
rocesses that involve reading, such as cooking, deciphering food labels and menus, or following directions and street signs. Children need to be active participants in their own reading acquisition, and therefore, intrinsic motivation is absolutely necessary. Therefore, the most import thing is to take the time to enjoy the process. Through a casual and relaxed approach, children will see that reading is a means to transmit ideas from person to person. Reading equals freedom of thought, because it opens individuals up to the thoughts that other people have had across the world and across time. This is an immense opportunity, and worth pointing out.


By Diane Swiatek, Founder and Principal, Banbury Crossroads School

http://banburycrossroads.com/homepage.html